Style is more than fashion. Image involves more than your appearance. Good etiquette, manners, behavior is a priceless commodity.
“Good manners open the doors that the best education cannot.” ~ Clarence Thomas
“Rudeness is the weak man’s imitation of strength.” ~ Eric Hoffer
“Politeness and consideration for other is like investing pennies and getting back dollars.” ~ Thomas Sowell
“Don’t reserve your best behavior for special occasions. You can’t have two sets of manners, two social codes – one for those you admire and want to impress, and another for those whom you consider unimportant. You must be the same to all people.” ~ Lillian Eichler Watson
Real life Deal Breakers:
Story #1– A director and his entourage approached me to work with him on a movie. He never spoke until he asked me for my business card. I gave it to him thinking that he was going to keep it for contact purposes. Instead, he turned it over, got out his pen and wrote his information on it then handed it back to me. I was extremely put off by this. At that point, I decided this man’s Alpha Dog ego I could not deal with…no matter the money. Can you imagine him on the set? No thank you.
Story #2– This has happened in both personal and professional settings. Lunching with someone who treats the serving staff at the restaurant like their own personal property. I do not condone anyone who feels they are superior and badly treats those they feel are inferior. No, not another date. No, I don’t want your business. Game over.
Watch what you say, how you say it ……and your body language speaks for itself. All things to consider on your way to successful encounters.
Rudeness is not easily forgiven, nor forgotten. If you question what is rude behavior, see below what the dictionary says. If still not sure, ask me. I would be more than happy to educate you. Keeping with this vibe…read my March 26 post, “Style, More Than What You Wear”.
–adjective,rud·er, rud·est. 1. discourteous or impolite, esp. in a deliberate way: a rude reply. 2. without culture, learning, or refinement: rude, illiterate peasants. 3. rough in manners or behavior; unmannerly; uncouth. 4. rough, harsh, or ungentle: rude hands. 5. roughly wrought, built, or formed; of a crude construction or kind: a rude cottage. 6. not properly or fully developed; raw; unevolved: a rude first stage of development. 7. harsh to the ear: rude sounds. 8. without artistic elegance; of a primitive simplicity: a rude design. 9. violent or tempestuous, as the waves. 10. robust, sturdy, or vigorous: rude strength. 11. approximate or tentative: a rude first calculation of costs.
1. uncivil, unmannerly, curt, brusque, impertinent, impudent, saucy, pert, fresh. 1, 3. See boorish. 2. unrefined, uncultured, uncivilized, uncouth, coarse, vulgar, rough. 6. See raw. 8. rustic, artless. 9. stormy, fierce, tumultuous, turbulent.
A view from the penthouse ~ Avery